Friend is coming off as controlling and I am dreading my trip. What can I do?

I have asked this question before and got pretty good advice, but my friend has found a way around it!

My boyf and I have been planning to go on a vacation to a particular tropical destination for awhile now. A year ago a good friend and her guy moved out there. We figured since we needed to stop near their town anyway to change planes, at some point we would visit them. She began hounding be last year about when I was planning to visit and I soon as I mentioned the time of year she was off and rolling. Here are the things concerning me in order of when they happened:



-I told her we are planning a vacation to two destinations and were not expecting her to put us up like she has in the past. She INSISTED we stay at her place and seemed hurt that I didn't want to



-After getting her way and having us stay at her house she told us she had an extra room for us to stay in. Nice! Then 2 months ago told me that her housemates that moved in AFTER she offered the room had invited company and we had to sleep on the couch in a blow up bed.



-I was good natured about it and took this as an opportunity to get our freedom back. We booked a hotel about 20 mins from her house in a big city and told her our plans, going to see a tourist attraction the first day, then come visit her at her house the second day, then the third day drive around the area and just stop and look at things as we pleased.



-she sends me an email saying she is hoping to save up enough money to come with us to our second location even though I already told her we were going there for a romantic getaway to end our vacation. I write her back and politely decline her inviting herself, saying I hope we can do it another time as a couple or a group but we need a much deserved romantic weekend just the 2 of us



-She tells me she is bummed we're not staying at her place but "it's cool" and she is taking off all 3 days we are there and wants to spend every second with us



-She emails me and texts me asking the name of our hotel saying she wants to get a room with her boyfriend...I think she REALLY wants him to take her on vacation and is sad that she lives in a tourist area and has to work so hard and can't enjoy it so she is hijacking our vacation



-I tell her the name of the hotel, reluctantly. I got the room so that I could have some privacy, have my own bathroom with my guy and not have her rushing me to hurry up and get ready which is hwat she has done in the past.



-she informs me that she tried eating at a burger joint i mentioned I liked last time I was there and can't wait to try again. she said it wasn't that good and seemed dissaproving when I told her I still want to try it again because I had good memories there and it's close to our hotel.



-She asks me what I want to do and I say we have a couple things in mind but trying to play it by ear. She says she has tons of ideas for things to do then proceeds to email me an intenerary of the 3 days and what she has planned for us all to do those 3 days



-I respond back that those are great ideas and we like some of them but we want to play it by ear.



-I read in a magazine of a popular water sport that started in the area we are staying in and it's supposed to be a great place for beginners. I tell her I am thinkin of taking lessons and she responds back very negatively that we don't need lessons and she knows how to do it even though she's never even tried it. We exchange some messages and everytime I suggests a place I have found good reviews for she says "We'll see" or "I'll have to check it out"



I feel like I am banging my head against a wall. She is not getting it. I am going on vacation. We have our own room, our own rental car and I hve been here before. I don't need a babysitter or a tour guide and if I want to try something, I don't see why she has to shoot all my ideas down and plan my days out. My boyfriend says if any of this goes on once we actually get there (we leave for the trip in 2 days) he will stand up for me and put his foot down. A part of me understands where she is coming from, she is excited to host and wants to show us her favorite spots. I live in a touristy beach town and understand, but if someone was coming here I wouldn't be negative if they wanted to try something touristy or read about and wanted to try. I would either join them or take a pass and offer to meet them later as I have done many times. I haven't asked her to host me or take me anywhere and I am starting to really get upset and dread this trip. I know now I should have waited to tell her once we were there and asked if we can meet up for dinner. Any way to get out of her controlling grip now and not destroy the friendship. I have known her for 12 years. I value some of her opinions but also want to explore and try new things without someone telling me they know better about everythiFriend is coming off as controlling and I am dreading my trip. What can I do?
Well, its obvious this girl isn't getting it, you have to tell it to her straight. Try to be as polite about it as possible but tell her that this trip is for you and your boyfriend to spend time together and you would much rather you guys just have dinner together one or two nights and that next time you can spend more time with them. If she gets upset then she will just have to deal I doubt she will hate you for it somewhere in that head of hers she will hopefully understand. Don't let her control your trip stand up for yourself. This is about you and your boyfriend having a good time not her.