Wedding? Am I missing anything?

Okay, i have invetations made up, or well designed on the computer and the only thing we don't have decided is what year. We're shooting for 2011, but we aren't positive yet.

I have a full guest list and all i'm missing is a few addresses (which i will get in a few days).



Wedding Location: Treemont City Cemitary; Mom's head stone

Reception Place: The home of Roy Detrick.



Cake: Marble Cake

Bride and Groom Cake: Ice Cream cake

Wedding Time: 3/4?

Reception Time: 3:30/4:30?

Rent Tables and Chairs ? (looking at places still)

Food - undecided (Idas: Pizza, Burgers, BBQ Chicken, chips, salads, and etc)

Bouquet and Garder - undecided

Clothing - Nice Casual (Bride in groom will dress in a casual manner but will not look lik slobs. everyone is expected to come casual as well).

Am I missing anything? I know times aren't set nor is the year because we're not positive yet. But other than this what else am i missing. I am having brides maids but not a maid of honor and i have them picked and he has a best man (his father).Wedding? Am I missing anything?
What you have so far sounds good.

Decorations for the reception. Just some chinese paper lanterns tied into the trees or under the house gutters would be cheap and pretty. and no worries about candles and open flame. They make rolls of paper suitable for tablecloths, they sell thm at the wedding rental store.

Consider some flowers for Mom's headstone, they make a "saddle" for the headstone that fits over the stone securely, and will hold an arrangement. Some you can decorate the whole saddle, some hold a vase. Gee, you can even match your bouquet to it, or pick a flower out of it to match with yours, Mom's favorite, if it is appropriate to carry it would be great. .

Will you have music at the grave site/wedding site? You can, something sweet and quiet, maybe orchestral would work, put someone in charge of the boom box.

Have a poem for Mom. It does not have to be fancy, just something simple and from the heart. Include that you know she is watching. A prepared speech that you can practice will help you not fall apart and cry all over your dress at the wedding.

Don't forget the cost of invitations and thank you notes.

Be prepared for a recent rain and soft ground at the cemetery if that is an issue where you live.

Will you be having alcohol at the reception? Need a bartender, a table, the booze, and cups for the guests and toasting glasses for yourself and the groom. And something to keep the drinks cold in.

Don't forget flowers for your bridesmaids.

For a casual event, favors, programs, even a guest book are not necessary. Got someone to take pictures? Think about a disposable camera or two given to those that are reliable. My friend's daughter did the disposable camera thing to each table. One set of pics was of two guests, the garbage cans, and them in them. Gross, and wasteful, and not very thoughtful of a bride on a budget wedding. Doing your own hair and nails and make-up? If not, get an appointment made soon,and if it is a stylist not known to you, book a appointment to get your hair done soon.
I think the cemetary is a little creepy to be honest. Your mom will be there in spirit and I would be surprised if anyone actually let you have a wedding there, its a little disrespectful.



Everything else sounds good, you may want to get a wedding planning book or sign up to a website, that will provide a list, they are very helpful! Its hard to plan everything if you havent set a date, which should be step one, but you sound very organized, so congrats and good luckWedding? Am I missing anything?
Do you have someone to DJ? Most of the good DJ's in my area book way in advance and are kinda pricey so you'll want to figure that in. Have you thought about gifts for your bridal party? That also took me some planning as I wanted something personal and it was harder than I would have thought. Table centerpieces? Guest favors? I know it's casual but if you want to get your hair done you might want to research a few places.
you should just go to theknot.com or something and look at a checklist. but really, you dont need to worry about any of this stuff until waaaay closer to the day. since you already have the location and everything, you really dont need to think about the details until like 9 months before.Wedding? Am I missing anything?
Everything sounds fine except the cemetery wedding. Your heart is in the right place, but this is a massive no-no. It will make your guests extremely uncomfortable.
I didn't see favors on your list : ) not sure what types of favors would match your location though, but I'm sure there's something
you must have really loved your mother and miss her. ( hugs)
A cemetery?



Hun that's a little on the morbid side, Mom will be there in spirit!



I would find another site for the wedding personally, I wouldn't feel right being a guest at a wedding in a cemetery..



At the end of the day its your wedding but I would reconsider the cemetery...



Edit: I think you need to 1) go back to school your English is atrocious! and 2) no way am I deleting my answer simply because we'ree telling you its tacky to have your wedding in a cemetery! Hell you can't even spell it right! and the only bad rating I got was from you I assume as I got 3 up!



Don't let the star go to your head - I'd love my contacts to read this stupidness!
Ultimately you and your fiance need to decide what you're comfortable with, and go with it.



However, I'm a Mother and can't imagine wanting my children to get married at my headstone if I weren't living. My reason? A wedding is a joyous occasion and is a new beginning. But getting married at my headstone? I feel it would bring tears that weren't necessary and put a bit of a "damper" on such a joyous occasion.



When I visit my Dad's grave, or our baby's grave, the tears of sadness are never far behind. I miss them both terribly, and I know you have to miss your Mother so much. But the heaviness in my heart at the graves of the people I loved dearly would make a wedding so hard. I'm sure your Mother would want you to be so happy on your wedding day. And I know you want her there so much.



But even at the cemetery, she's only there in spirit. In the things she taught you, the way she touched the lives of those who loved her and that she loved. And that spirit and the memories are with you no matter where you decide to be married. She's a part of who you are and always will be. And being the very best person you can be to honor her memory is all I'm sure she would ask or want.



Getting married elsewhere, and putting a photo of your family with your Mother, and another photo your groom's family in beautiful frames near a guest book would be an even more special tribute. People could pause and look at the smile on your Mother's face and remember the love in her heart. Whereas the cemetery will probably be a sad place.



I do wish you the best! And your love for your Mother and respect for her memory is awesome. I hope your wedding is wonderful, no matter what you decide to do!!!